tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post1499671556259490556..comments2024-03-16T16:41:46.133+01:00Comments on Two tears in a bucket: RapeAdaezehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18005977710433435845noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-89786317881807581152009-07-03T18:04:10.457+02:002009-07-03T18:04:10.457+02:00Whoa! Im glad you are much better...Whoa! Im glad you are much better...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-41054784251432656422009-07-03T10:51:25.665+02:002009-07-03T10:51:25.665+02:00@ Scribbles - Yes, you are first! First, first, fi...@ Scribbles - Yes, you are first! First, first, first. Lol.<br /><br />@ Sting - Yes, YAY for us feminists. Lets unite.<br /><br />@ GNG - I love every comment you make. They are always long and I can tell you care. Thank y ou for taking time out of your life to give me all these sweet words. My heart goes out to you. You are so right about everything else you said aswell.<br /><br />@ Yinkuslolo - We do, my dear... Thank you.<br /><br />@Doll - I hope so too. Thanks for your warming words.<br /><br />@ Beulah! - And thank you to you for helping me out with your warming words. They make a difference, remember that.<br /><br />@ SOlomonsydelle - Thank you for taking the time to write a long comment and even email me. I appreciate it so much. I appreciate hearing from you, being that you are older and wiser. I think you put it just right "A woman's life is very complicated". I agree that we should only marry feminists..that is a graet idea and that is how we can fight it. Women need to smarten up! And you mentioned what i meant to mention in the post but forgot - that we need to raise our songs right. Bomboy and TK Will be great men one day and god bless you. And I also agree about fathers being cruical in emboldening our daughters. I love your way with words. You're a powerful woman!<br /><br />@ DOwntheaisle - Thank you my dear<br /><br />@ Severus snape - I thank god too. Thank you for your comment.<br /><br />@ Afronuts - I also thank God I have a blog. I had no idea it would help this much!<br /><br />@ Bagucci - Thank you. I appreciate it.<br /><br />@ Leggy - Let it never happen to anyone..thats what I pray for.<br /><br />@ Nana - I appreciate your coment nevertheless. Let Karma rule the world I beg.. :)<br /><br />@ Simeone - Thank you..<br /><br />@ Scribbles - thank you. And thanks for being such a good guy. I admire your courage in protecting your sister. That's what I needed. Nothing bad will ever happen to her with you around. God bless you!<br /><br />@ Lady X - I feel honored that you can say that to me. Thank you. So much.<br /><br />@ Aloted - Thank you for your prayers. Bless you<br /><br />@ Jhazmyn - Thank you. The way you put that makes perfect sense and I will pursue my goal of helping others more forcefully.<br /><br />@ Enkay - You are so right about our sons being raised right. >I am so happy that I could spread this awarence around blogville. Thank you for your sweet words my dear.<br /><br />@ Standtall - Together, we will change the world. Na you biko.<br /><br />@ Original Mgbeke - Thank you so much for your wonderful words my dear!Adaezehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18005977710433435845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-88618411982605610992009-07-02T14:16:12.394+02:002009-07-02T14:16:12.394+02:00Wow! You are SO brave and inspiring. I love how yo...Wow! You are SO brave and inspiring. I love how you refuse to be put down by the incident and I enjoyed your honesty and candidness. Thank you so much for shedding light to the issue.Original Mgbekehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11409561613382179987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-69907517728735357652009-07-01T18:12:12.736+02:002009-07-01T18:12:12.736+02:00you are one strong woman my lady and I so agree wi...you are one strong woman my lady and I so agree with a lot you have said above. You have turned your experience around to help others both men and women learnt to love and cherish one another.<br /><br />Together my dear lady, we will help change the world. <br /><br />I will always love your bravery and good heart!The Activisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10208721217617791119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-16327805443206861842009-07-01T15:39:16.007+02:002009-07-01T15:39:16.007+02:00You are truly an inspiration to many ladies out th...You are truly an inspiration to many ladies out there.<br /><br />You have gone through a really bad experience yet I see through your post, a woman who has refused to be put down.<br />You have risen above this, affirming your feminity and your right to a beautiful life free of stigma.<br /><br />Truly, the men in our lives must join their voices with ours. We are, as you rightly put it, their daughters, sisters and wives.<br />Our sons should be taught to not only respect women but cherish them too.<br /><br />Our voices shall be heard.<br /><br />Cheers dearie.Enkayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09513593787004243051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-60905909703543963192009-07-01T15:15:55.722+02:002009-07-01T15:15:55.722+02:00We walk through situations and when we come throug...We walk through situations and when we come through, we become guides to others that life might push along that same path, that's what you've just done. <br /><br />God bless you luvjhazmynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00937354854181520677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-86124562379192997162009-07-01T12:34:09.150+02:002009-07-01T12:34:09.150+02:00hmmm loved reading this...and u have raised some v...hmmm loved reading this...and u have raised some valid points...<br /><br />I agree that the men in our lives should join in our fight...it would go a long way...<br /><br />Also i am glad to know that things are looking better for u...and i pray your healing will be completealotedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17293074684237435820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-78498489207850510772009-07-01T04:10:51.868+02:002009-07-01T04:10:51.868+02:00Good on you!
You're an inspiration. More greas...Good on you!<br />You're an inspiration. More grease to your elbow. Can't remember ever saying that to anyone- 'You're an inspiration'Lady Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05905725300292828816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-53732013775152687792009-07-01T02:10:16.902+02:002009-07-01T02:10:16.902+02:00Back after 14 comments...
mehn this is really tou...Back after 14 comments...<br /><br />mehn this is really touching u know...ur Hubby is a sure boy...or man lol! Glad u overcameSir Scribbleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03090080300259543990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-1835331075021659892009-07-01T00:09:48.724+02:002009-07-01T00:09:48.724+02:00this makes plenty sense..this makes plenty sense..olusimeonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17090430527099563273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-73330885315102124102009-06-30T00:47:07.954+02:002009-06-30T00:47:07.954+02:00rape is something i hope never happens to me...its...rape is something i hope never happens to me...its a pity it happened to u and is still happening to peeps out there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-68224851937893551232009-06-29T19:24:54.350+02:002009-06-29T19:24:54.350+02:00I salute your courage.... It can only help others ...I salute your courage.... It can only help others and raise awareness on the subject......Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-21220721281803896442009-06-29T18:50:13.536+02:002009-06-29T18:50:13.536+02:00Thank God u've got a blog. How else would u ha...Thank God u've got a blog. How else would u have an outlet to let go?<br /><br />I feel so much for u...stay cool, u'll be fine. And there will be people who will want u, rape or no rape.Afronutshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15566418094230419342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-48243309641139909142009-06-29T18:32:46.012+02:002009-06-29T18:32:46.012+02:00So touching...thank God you let go.So touching...thank God you let go.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-54914146686623307862009-06-29T17:54:00.120+02:002009-06-29T17:54:00.120+02:00Babe you are strong, and I am glad u have moved pa...Babe you are strong, and I am glad u have moved past it.<br /><br />I agree with you that women have to be more cautious, especially as there are brothers out there that can't just take a NO.<br /><br />I also agree with GNG's comments, 100%downtheaislehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07674683072595909008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-39428384634223761552009-06-29T16:40:59.884+02:002009-06-29T16:40:59.884+02:00Again, your bravery will give strength to others. ...Again, your bravery will give strength to others. I for one applaud and thank you for sharing your story.<br /><br />A woman's life is very complicated. Some will try to dull the shine that God granted us by verbally, physically, sexually, mentally abusing us. Ultimately, we cannot forget that it is crucial to gather whatever strength we have, and the love we receive from others, to overcome any challenges placed before us.<br /><br />Reading your story only reinforces that people, men and women, have an inner strength that can be relied on. Sometimes, we have to dig a little deeper to find that strength, but it is there, nonetheless.<br /><br />As to including men in the fight against sexual abuse - that is a no-brainer. I advocate that women should only marry feminists, personally. Or at least a man who understands/empathizes with the complex nature of a woman's existence. As women, we do have to teach our son's to respect not just a woman's body, but her mind. We have to teach our son's to understand how their actions could potentially affect women. We also have to embolden our daughters. Fathers are crucial in this, I feel. Abeg, let me stop my speech, o jare. Allow space for others to discuss. God bless you my sista. It is the courage you have displayed that changes the world, you know.<br /><br />Take care.SOLOMONSYDELLEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17564768670896215900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-3017864262580004942009-06-29T15:58:03.215+02:002009-06-29T15:58:03.215+02:00Reading this brought tears to my eyes. Nobody dese...Reading this brought tears to my eyes. Nobody deserves to go through this brutal experience. Thank God you've been able to move on...thanks again for sharingBeulah!https://www.blogger.com/profile/13253476795544978424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-6646069280559306302009-06-29T15:49:11.297+02:002009-06-29T15:49:11.297+02:00good to know you are letting it all out...hope it ...good to know you are letting it all out...hope it gives you closuredoll (retired blogger)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04617294319074603189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-8857982902780043872009-06-29T15:42:32.706+02:002009-06-29T15:42:32.706+02:00As a female myself, I understand how precautionary...As a female myself, I understand how precautionary one has to be. sometimes though, one gets carried away and can fall in the hands sexually forceful men.<br /><br />We need prayers all the time and I am glad u feel betterYinkuslolohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00178459322033243252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-86843481852733400102009-06-29T15:01:39.788+02:002009-06-29T15:01:39.788+02:00I'm so glad that your followup post is full of...I'm so glad that your followup post is full of glimpses of a woman who is getting past this awful experience and moving forward with life. I'm also glad that your husband was someone who you felt comfortable sharing your experiences with, and he's able to be part of the healing process.<br /><br />I agree whole heartedly with your advice to women to be careful. I don't think anyone that gets raped is ever "asking for it", and normal guys like you said would not venture further if a woman says no. Unfortunately there are men out there whose heads are not correct, who think a woman's way of dressing, or the fact that she's drunk and saying nonsense is an open invitation. It is because of these crazies that women have to be careful. Just like it's a stupid idea to walk through a bad neighbourhood late at night, flashing your jewelry and/or money, it's a bad idea to dress in a way that might call unwelcome attention to yourself, especially if you know you will be somewhere where crazies reside. <strong>It would still not be the woman's fault if, God forbid, she was raped</strong>, however I would recommend women try to minize any potential of something like that happening, recognizing that <em>even with every precaution</em>, women can still get raped and violated.<br /><br />And yes! More men need to be involved in the fight against rape. Even just more open discussion with their friends would be good, bringing the topic up, taking a stand on the matter knowing that it's not only a certain kind of woman who can be a victim.Good Naija Girlhttp://goodnaijagirl.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-86237934253558718822009-06-29T14:03:29.001+02:002009-06-29T14:03:29.001+02:00I'm glad you are working past the issue and th...I'm glad you are working past the issue and things are getting better. Yay for feminists, we rock.NaijaScorpiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15375583469985472050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-76343110706694512392009-06-29T13:32:51.483+02:002009-06-29T13:32:51.483+02:00Okay I'm going out for a bit but I just want E...Okay I'm going out for a bit but I just want EVERYONE to know that I came her first lol! I will comment when I get back...come my space ooo! I bin dey here!!!Sir Scribbleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03090080300259543990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1423779707230156311.post-49624262647929201832009-06-29T13:31:54.925+02:002009-06-29T13:31:54.925+02:00Numero Uno Baby!Numero Uno Baby!Sir Scribbleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03090080300259543990noreply@blogger.com